That quote is from a former friend who has little, if any, life experience. No real job, no internship, no anything other than being a student, spoken with her awkward head bobbing. I remember laughing silently when she said this. How silly. I remember everyone else in the room remained silent as well, not sure whether they should point out the ignorance in her statement. You will learn in good time child, oh you will learn…
In the real world, not everyone you think that likes you act like they do. If you’re blind you will end up taking everything at face value and probably wonder why people you consider “friends” didn’t come to your aid when you needed them or stepped over you when they had the chance.
I find the business world is a lot like this. And since every industry involves business to some degree this applies everywhere. Everything starts with standard hi’s and how are you’s regardless of view of that person. I find is a bit daunting. It’s like a unspoken ritual. Smiles are put on and any negativity is bottled to be released once you’re out of sight. Not to say greetings aren’t genuine but it gets repetitive quickly. Good thing I’m good at acting. I use this against people I didn’t like at school and I’m pretty sure some still have no idea that I disliked them. I suppose it’s better this way. But if we ever cross professional paths or if they dare ask for a referral to boost their chances of landing a job…well, tough luck buddy. I’m just gonna laugh. This bridge has a keep out sign just for you.
I had (and still have) the opportunity, at my discretion, to refer anyone to my internship place in New Jersey where I pitched executive management a business development idea and aided in developing a whole new e-commerce sector of their business. It’s not bragging. My current supervisor called to hire me immediately after getting off the phone with my previous supervisor for a reference. Needless to say the next intern(s) had big shoes to fill.
I did have a friend during the school year who started expressing interest in pursuing marketing and PR. I refrained from mentioning the offer as he tends to change his mind a lot…and tends to have poor time management stills and verbal control under stress he causes for himself i.e. constant complaining. Referring someone to my former bosses is also reflects my judgement and myself. If the referral does well their impression of me is increased. If the referral does poorly I will become a part of the blame for wasting their time. And time is a valuable thing in the world of business.
Nonetheless, I’m more than happy to help my friends get their foot in the door. Whether they’re looking for an internship or advice. I’m sure they know where they stand with me in asking for favors. I have a post documenting the impression you’ve made.
Though in undergrad college, I find people much too immature to think about things other than the next weekend to get drunk. I didn’t understand why people would brush off car problems, computer battery problems, or time management problems when I would point out the reason lied within their habits. But I think I’ve figured it out…either they are immature for their age or I am mature beyond my years. The new friends I’ve made here in DC are years older than me have constantly told me I am the latter. And I believe them. It explains the frustrations I had with people in the school clubs I was involved in.
Even though I’ve only been working for a bit over a month I feel like its been much longer. I suppose only in time will you kids who have time to be reading this during the day will grow up and catch up. This is life, where we all end up, and I’ll see where it takes me.
"My heart is like an open highway. Like Frankie said I did it my way. I just wanna live while I’m alive. It’s my life" - Bon Jovi